Mexico, My Third Country
A few
months ago, it was five years since I moved to Mexico City to live with my
daughter and her family. She had settled here over a quarter of a century ago.
When I told an old friend about my moving plans—a person of my vintage and also
a German-Jewish refugee when in her teens—she emailed me, surely smiling,
“emigrating again, I see.”
Well, my friend was right.
Five years away from the US (where I had lived for about 70 years, are
sufficiently significant, even if it unlikely that this Mexican stint will add
up to my original German stay, where I had lived until I was twelve. While, given
my advanced age, I am dubious that my Mexican years will last that long. I have
no intention of leaving , since I am happy in my Mexico City abode.
Of
course, repeat, of course it is
different from anything that has gone before in my life. But when I take stock,
much more of the difference from the years preceding can be attributed to
geography than to age. Here I only want to mention a couple of characteristics that are peculiar to
the fact that I live in Mexico and on those that are not a matter of choice or
discretion.
Most
obviously, the biggest difference from my past is the language. Yes, I had to
learn another language moving from Heidelberg to New York, but boy! how
different learning English in the 6th grade in New York from coping
with a new language in my late eighties. I made very little special effort to
acquire Spanish, since a little
effort would not have gotten me very far, given the age of my brain. Moreover, I haven’t had much of a motive
to learn a new language, since I live with a family that is wholly bilingual, allowing
me to be totally lax about learning Spanish. Thank you, my family!
Now to
a second structural difference between now and what has gone before, from what
was familiar to me in the US. Let me get specific. In the morning, around eight, Antonia brings my breakfast to
my room, after I shout that she should come in, in response to her discreet
knocking. In short, the Salazar family has a full-time, live-in servant—at this
time an efficient young person.
(Daughter)
Ellie and her husband are more than full time musicians, both with orchestra
posts and other concert gigs, both with many individual students and other
teaching duties, as well as more sporadic chamber music performances, but quite
a few of those.
Such
careers would call for household help in the US, but in Mexico, a society with
distinct classes, nothing could be more normal than to have a full-time live-in
servant. And nothing makes that more clear than the fact that middle class
housing has clearly designated servant quarters.
These
two structural differences between my
earlier existence and now just scratch the surface of what the change is like.
But these two traits are even more fundamental than the difference in food and
the like.
But I should
also mention the climate. You can’t beat it!